Where do you turn when you need help? Do you ever need help? Of course you do.
Perhaps the better question is, ‘do you ever acknowledge that you need help?’ Human beings are obsessed with independence. In fact, it’s seen as a virtue to be independent these days. But deep within you, if you dare admit it, you know that you don’t have all the answers, and you do need help.
There was a quote I saw on Facebook the other day and, as with most posts on the internet, it was a flippant, pithy remark with a tiny grain of truth.
“My life, my choices, my mistakes, my consequences, not your business.”
Why do we do this? Why are we so obsessed with our independence? In this case, a great reply could be. “Your life, your choices, your mistakes, your consequences. Not going so well is it, want some help?” Be honest, there are times that you need help. So ask.
Getting things wrong is natural, it is understandable. If you’re a new mum, no one expects you to have all the answers. Find someone who has the kind of kids you would like to have, and ask her how she did it. If you’re struggling with work, find someone whose work you respect and ask them. Find people you can trust, and allow them to help.